Understand the necessary qualities of a good spiritual director. The person needs to be trained, faithful, prudent, knowledgeable (about the faith and the spiritual life), and balanced. It is someone who is an excellent listener, honest, willing to challenge you, and make sure you are being honest with yourself. The person doesn’t need to be a genius, or a pastor, priest, or psychologist but it is crucial that they have a mature relationship and walk with God, and that they be authentically engaged in their own pursuit of holiness, so that they speak not only from theory, but also from experience.Your Spiritual Director should be someone you can trust – either someone you already trust, or someone who easily and naturally wins your trust during the first few times you meet.